I have a deep dark, pop-culture guilty pleasure: I love wedding shows. Bridezillas, Say Yes to the Dress, Four Weddings- if it’s on Bravo or TLC, I probably watch it. I see as grown up Disney movies- completely unrealistic for those of use who think spending $100,000 on a party is insane, but that doesn’t make it any less fun to watch. (And lets be honest, I would spend $100,000 if I had the money. I would also be the craziest rich person ever, but that’s beside the point.)
The Fiancé gives his cursory eye rolls and comments about the insane price tags, but I don’t care. One thing I’ve began to really love is being girly. I work in a very testosterone heavy environment (one of 3 girls in the office, and I’m often the only one there), and I’ve decided to embrace the girly girl inside. However, I will not embrace the inner Bridezilla.
I’ve mentioned before about zen being the key to My Happiness Project. Finding the calm in the storm of every day life has gone a long way to helping me be a better mom, (future) wife, student, and friend. I used to laugh at those don’t sweat the small stuff cliché’s and my mom’s Pollyanna attitude (still drives me nuts Mom! I love you!) but these days I’m seeing the wisdom in a chosen calm. Because that’s what happiness is- getting up every day and choosing that I will be happy no matter how much the world sucks that day. And the world can suck a lot sometimes.
I’ve found that this is most important in wedding planning. I constantly have this tornado of bridal crazy swirling around in the back of my head demanding all of my time and sanity, but I have to say no. That’s another important key to my happiness: it’s ok to say no.
And when that doesn’t work, Nicole has been put in charge of beating back the Bridezilla. Because without awesome friends, My Happiness Project wouldn’t be possible. 😀